Bandages

Why do we feel better with a bandage on? The little one she just had chickenpox and has a few spots still on her, some on the left elbow those actually were worse than on the right hand. Now that they are gone there is a bump and she thinks it still hurts when she looks at it. She even holds her hand differently, “bandage, grandma” she says, “ouch”. Through the whole time she itched at them but it was the one little mark on her right hand she wanted a bandage for; she felt better just having it on.

Many of us have so many bandages on us we do not even see them anymore. We have covered over the disappointment, anger, despair and sadness with these bandages. Somehow we have let ourselves become numb to the pain and become complacent with what was happening to us.

Small things like a scratch on our mind or a blister on our soul that we have covered up. The callused heart that gets thicker and thicker. The hangnails of life that hurt so much but they are just small little remarks that people say but sting and need to be cut off

The board game of life we often feel like someone else is playing our turn and we have to live with the consequences of their actions. The broken relationships, finances dwindling away, heartache of the soul; we cover it up again with another bandage.

Remove the bandage, slowly or rip them off, but start taking them off. Gradually we are healing underneath and we didn’t realize that we just had to give ourselves some time. Slowly start peeling away the years of abuse, addiction and anger one affirmation at a time, and one good day at a time. Discarding and replacing with love and forgiveness for myself and others; healing from the inside out. At times we forget they are even there and they feel comfortable and until something is said we forget about the pain. Some of the bandages may have to be replaced with others and we do need to take time to heal to be gentle with ourselves and we may need a friend to help us remove them asking for help.

Looking at the discarded bandages of pain with wisps of memories we sometimes feel the twinge of an ache that feels familiar and think we want to feel comforted and think of replacing the bandage again.One day we may remember the pain and put on another bandage thinking it somehow comforts us.

Be at peace; know you are loved by God and others who you may never even have realized. Connect inward today with yourself while reaching out to others who may be like you. You have the authority, you command your life.

As woman the little girl in us and the girls who our shadow falls on need to see that we respect ourselves and love ourselves. Healing and expecting more for our relationships than abusive, addictive and angry relationships while setting boundaries and not listening to the limiting beliefs we accepted as our mothers and grandmothers believed were all they were entitled to. Have a blissful weekend to all my be.YOU.tiful women out there.

I am wrapping all the loss, pain and anger up and giving it to God. I am working on me for me, healing me for me and loving me for me.